Marriage has been defined by every legislature that has ever sat in the United States from every State now 50 States the same way but now we have unelected judges altering and changing that fundamental institution.
Religious institutions should have religious freedom on this issue. No church or minister should ever have to conduct a marriage that is inconsistent with their religious beliefs. But I think as a civil institution this issue's time has come and we need to move forward.
I got married at 22 and remained in an abusive marriage for 10 years. I made up my mind that that was never going to happen to me again. I made a brave step to walk out in a society when you didn't walk out of an abusive marriage. It was mental and physical abuse.
I guess you kind of got to realize that once you in a marriage whatever it is you gotta deal with it. Not necessarily that you got to accept it but you have to deal with it and try your best to make it work for you for the both of you.
People used to say my son looked like a Mexican Biggie. And when he was first born memories of Biggie... you know we didn't always have the greatest days. For at least half the length of our marriage we were separated so everyday was definitely not a good day.
Marriage and the creation of families has been an integral part of our society since its creation it should not be defined without the kind of involvement by the people which a constitutional process would require.